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Hello everybody, so today we're going to talk about the topic of the vibrational match and how it can impact your efficiency and your productivity when you are scrolling on the internet.

Some of you you might think that this is a weird topic like how am I

even relating the two like are these two even related.

I would say definitely totally they are related and there is this new age interest in this topic of vibration, in this interest of how we manifest how we attract things you must have if you're watching this episode you must have heard people say that our vibration tracks what we experience in our lives but the thing is that if we have a particular vibration then our vibration doesn't stay the same even throughout the day it's a very big topic but to be brief on it.

I would say that we have a dominant vibration and we have a not-so-dominant vibration. I have experienced in my life in the past three decades I have seen that whenever our dominant vibration changes it can be because something major has changed.

It can be our location where we are based has changed, it can be our key interests have changed, our careers have changed, or something major has happened in our life usually when dominant or vibration changes.

Just think about it like if you have

ever

switched places

let's say you were

living in a city

while growing up and then you got a new

job or you went ahead to

uh join a school join a college for a

graduation and then

you have to

move your location

okay

and when you move your location

sometimes you have to also change your

phone number

it may not always be required but

sometimes

so

don't you think that

that is one of the analogies which can

really help you understand this concept

of

vibration like

how are we really connecting with each

other

through

phone like our phone

has

a phone number

and whenever we

move

countries

we have to get

a new

phone number otherwise

if we don't do that we would not be able

to settle well in that new location it

will become harder for us

have you ever observed like you go

to a new place

you enter

a new school a new college a new company

we know this

that there is a dominant vibration that

that place holds

that new city not that new state or that

new

company you john or that new polish that

you join it holds a dominant vibration

and that vibration

attracts all the people

who join that

organization who join that school which

will

move to that particular location that

has to be a match

and if you want to be successful

there

in the new place then you have to make

some adjustments

and this example which i gave to you

about this analogy of

changing your phone number this is one

of those

we all know that when we go to a new

place

we find new

qualities in ourselves uh our

personality sometimes changes in a way

that we never expected our accent can

also change in a way that we did not

expect

change can vary depending on how much

time you spend on the place but

change happens

and it is inevitable because if you

don't change

uh when you go to the new place which is

demanding for you to adjust with the

dominant vibration of that face then you

will not be able to be successful

in your endeavors in that place

right

so

now

just think about it like when you were

growing up you had certain

group of friends

which you most probably would have had

when you were

in school

and

those group of people some of them might

have remained your good friends

uh right now even after 10 years even

after 20 years and some of them might

not have stayed as

uh even in touch with you you might not

know anything about them

why is that happening because

if you notice that

why do we talk to certain people and why

do we keep in touch with certain people

there is always some intersection

of the key areas of interest that we

have

which

bind us together like we all

okay we can have a shared history but if

you keep on meeting your old friend and

just discussing about shared history and

have nothing common

or you don't like the personality of the

person

that can be a common thing like you like

the personality okay

and

if you like the personality they will

emotionally something which would be

common in both of you that you like so

most of the time

there is some

key intersection of interest which binds

us together

and usually as people grow up over the

years their key interests keep on

changing

okay

now

when uh now my second thing that i'm

going to say

is how is all of this

related to scrolling on internet

and how is it impacting our productivity

and efficiency now

if you see

facebook feed

which in my experience like i had this

habit

of

i thought that i was taking

those tea breaks or evening breaks after

my walk and i was just crawling through

my facebook feed mindlessly

and i realized

that a lot of people which i knew

years back

i do like

knowing about what they're doing in

their life i do like knowing that they

are okay they are getting married or

they are getting a new job

i feel good i can't i even congratulate

them sometimes facebook pops up tell me

like hey it's their birthday i wish them

we connect like it feels good but

i have come to realize that

this habit

has been

not been helping me in

improving my productivity and my

efficiency in

my work

the way that i wanted

and so what i've done is that i have

drastically changed the way i use

facebook

see the thing is that

it's not that i'm against

anyone who does not have same interest

which i had with them years ago

and there is no match

and i'm just not attracted to uh know

anything about them i just don't even

care to keep in touch with them like

yeah there are some people like that

but not everyone like

i have some shared history with them

so

i have this you know emotional

bond you say

like if if let's say if i'm just

going somewhere and i meet one of them

my old colleague or my old

school friends or classmates and i meet

them in the airport and i'll be really

happy to meet them and uh to say hi and

just meet and greet you know

and

um uh and if we have time like a buffer

time and we are waiting for the flight

we might even like catch up and i would

be really really genuinely happy meeting

them

but

that doesn't mean that

even though i have this kind of

emotional bond which is there for for

all those people

which i had in my

in my previous years in my life that i

need to keep following them every day in

my social media

why

see

everybody

is

sharing

what they are sharing on social media

based on and their current dominant

vibration

okay

now

if they are sharing something which is

of interest to you

okay such as maybe they have

accomplished something you really really

like maybe they are into some kind of

if they are in some kind of profession

which

you really want to learn more they are

doing some research that you're really

interested for follow them go ahead

follow them but what about those people

who

you clearly do not have any

shared interest they have moved away

from where you live

they are you are not in the same

location

they have really

you know they

like for example one of my

old

school friend like she's gotten married

she's half a pack has kids and the kind

of views that she has the kind of

mindset that she has like it's

drastically different from what i have

and i know like

you know if i if i meet her like

i would be happy to say hi and meet and

greet i wouldn't i know that

most probably the kind of mindset the

kind of life that she's living like i

know

like

after that meeting and waiting like we

would not

become friends certainly just because we

met

like there is a

this is very difficult to accept but

when we move away from a group of people

when we move away from

a particular

location a particular organization a

particular school

the people who were there

some of them even if they need them for

a small while

you will never have the same question

with them

as we had earlier because

we change people change

so much and some change really

drastically

and when this kind of change happens it

is just

you do not want to force

yourself

to to maintain those relationships and

what we are trying to do with a lot of

people try to do is

the thing that oh i

you know i have so many people i know i

have thousands more friends and i have

1500 friends i have 3 000 friends and

they are proud like oh my gosh i have

had such a big network of people

very good i'm not even saying that you

delete them from your facebook friend

list

well i know people who

go ahead and do that

but you don't

the thing is

you just need to unfollow them

yes

that is what i recommend

and it is

i repeat that this is not about

you know saying that you are better or

they are not better

or you're comparing your life or you're

judging them no

you have to trust that if meeting them

if staying connected with them

is really going to be good for you is

really going to serve you in long term

then

you will get connected

okay

through some common friends and

commentary you will get to know about

that what you need to know anything that

you need to know about someone you will

get to know

but just because you'll miss something

or or something which you might be

curious you know just to be friends you

can still go and look at their facebook

profile their facebook wall whenever you

want

i'm giving this example specifically for

facebook because that is

what a lot of people have used but this

can be applied to

other social media platforms

uh in a different way

but

you know

coming back i would say that a lot of people share stuff

in social media which is you know charged emotionally

are they very happy they're very excited

they are

they are traveling somewhere

uh or they um

maybe they are venting sometimes they're

waiting about a bad experience but these

reversals or they are venting about

uh something bad that has happened in

their life

you know

there are

some good things which people say and

there's there's the

other side also

so it's a very emotionally charged place

and the thing is that

emotions are unstable like you

need what they've written if they're

written not in a very excited manner you

will kind of feel the excited wife

if the original uh written something

which is very

um

sad or gloomy like you would feel the

vibe

and why would you want to feel that

like

unnecessarily

is it serving you

how is it not like a dopamine

dopamine

i don't know addiction or something that

they're having

i'm not sure that if we can call it a

dopamine addiction but it is an

addiction of some kind

it definitely is a addiction of

sometimes some kind

you have to realize that

mindlessly scrolling on social media

does not serve you

let me give you one more example let's

say

you know i am following

some

friend

called magenta now magenta has been

posting amazing amazing stuff

oh my gosh i got married oh my gosh i

got a son oh my gosh i joined this

company

um i don't think i'm posting on her

purpose and i'm

commenting and i'm liking

and she's

she's also responding to that and then

suddenly one day like i'm entering the

market and i'm like hey magenta how are

you

so nice to meet you oh my gosh

and at that moment i'll be like i know

so much about my life like

i'll be i'll have that perception when i

meet her like okay i'm meeting this lady

she has son she has joined this company

and so i will make a kind of a

perception

about her when i'm meeting her actually

physically after so many years

because the last time i saw her was like

10 years ago

and just because i see

maybe five or four of her posts in the

last few years i've made like a

instantly i've just made this like

conclusion like

okay is this these things that happened

in her life and she's

she

shared these good things so she must be

doing good in our life

but what do i know what is happening in

my life right now

what if i did not know about those posts

what if i just saw her and then i

i really saw her i really listened to

her

when i asked her hey how are you and

whatever she said i really listened to

her

i really connected to her i did not have

preconceived

impressions about okay she's doing good

okay she's doing nice no

no

i would connect to her

even more deeply

even though i have not seen her facebook

false

whereas if i would have seen our

facebook post and i would say hey you've

got you you have a new son now

congratulations amazing huh

was like okay yeah yeah

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yeah and then she would not talk about

something which she might have otherwise

have talked because really i mean

having a son is not a highlight of her

life right now and something new is

going on and she won't share that

because i've already kind of

uh assumed that she's doing good in her

life okay

so it can

happen either ways but the thing is that

it is not

necessary

to

to go through someone's facebook feed to

ensure

that when at a later point of time we

are meeting them then our connection

will be even stronger no

even if you have not seen any of their

facebook posts

and you meet them years later somewhere

like you can have strong connection with

them you can have an easy conversation

with them

because you do not have preconceived

perceptions

preconceived impressions in your mind

about how they are going

and you really listen to them and you

will really hear them and you really see

them

so it does not impact your quality of

conversation in fact

it will improve your quality of

conversation

with those people when you meet them

again and that

would be a gift to them

and then the second thing which i have

one thing which

i just calculated numbers

oh my god you would be surprised let's

say

you are scrolling

every day for maybe 30 minutes

and you are doing it every freaking day

every freaking day

do you know how many hours it will be

it'll be

182.5 hours

every year

and if

if you think that

10 hours is your

is

is it is the time in the day when you

are just most efficient effective and

productive

then 182.5

divided by

10

yeah

you lost about

round about 18 days

18 days

of the year

just mindlessly scrolling through social

media what if

what if you would have you know like i'm

creating this content what if you have

utilized

those 18 days into creating something

and putting it out

so that the right people who

who are interested in that kind of

content that you want to share

so then then go ahead and then connect

with you

and then and then

you know interact with you

how good would it be

this is an example you can do anything

with the time the 18 days that you get

i'm not saying you'll stop following

facebook

you can still scroll facebook but just

think about it and just reflect about it

how much of the time that you're

spending

on on your facebook is really motivating

you

because there is a very high chance that

a lot of time that you're spending on

facebook

scrolling through all

all the posts is actually

a bad habit of yours

it's actually triggering you emotionally

and because it is triggering you

emotionally sometimes you end up

comparing sometimes you you you end up

remembering things in the past and

overthinking them and even wasting your

time even more

sometimes you end up judging people

sometimes you end up judging yourself

because you judge people about what they

are doing in their life like

why why do you want to put yourself

through all of this

what i would say is

definitely use introduce definitely use

facebook or any social media platform

that you like

but follow the people who inspire you

follow the people whose interests match

with you

follow the people who are sharing

something which is serving you

in whatever

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place you are in your life right now

only you can decide this for yourself

only you can curate the facebook feed

for yourself and the only thing

the only thing that you have to do is to

stop following people

mindlessly and i said earlier it is not

that you are going against them

or or you have stopped caring about them

no

it's just that you are protecting your

time and protecting your emotions you're

protecting your energy

by not mindlessly falling every day

you do not need to do

that because the thing is connecting

both the things

what what i said in starting off this

episode like vibrational match

if you have moved to a new location if

you have drastically changed

your key areas of interest

if you've changed if you had a career

change

or

something major

your dominant vibration has changed

and now it is

near impossible

to

be really genuinely connected with all

the people

who we were connected with before yes

you will still be connected with some of

them but not

all of them it is not possible

it is not possible

and so

now

it is up to you

for how

you're going to manage and how you're

going to curate

your own

facebook feed or social media feed or

whichever platform you use the most

this is not about starting to avoid

people but it is more about protecting

our time

value means our time

and it is not only about the time

it is protecting us from getting

unnecessarily emotional from seeing the

post

unnecessarily triggered seeing the post

unnecessarily judging and overthinking

seeing those posts

you are protecting yourself from all

those things and what will happen

when you do this every day

and you protect your time

your energy every day

you

you'll be more productive and you

will be more efficient in all the

intervals that you're taking

in your life right now

so now i leave it up to you

how you decide to go about scrolling on

the internet

i had so much fun with this episode and

i see you for the next episode again

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and

i'll see you again

bye

have a nice day!!